Why Should I Forgive

Colossians 3 F.jpgTherefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.                                                              (Colossians 3:12-13)

This has been a difficult thing for all humans to do is to forgive someone after being hurt, and more important to forgive ourselves for any and all of our short comings, and when we did something wrong. As I was reading a post from rethink church they share the following words, of why we should forgive. By forgiving someone we are choosing to let go of our pain in which we do carry and sometimes we carry that pain a long time. It is never easy to forgive anyone however when we ask Christ to help us to forgive the person that hurt us it becomes a lot easy to do. And if Jesus can forgive our sins shouldn’t we do the same?

Before the act of forgiveness can begin, there is the inward struggle of addressing the topic. Because letting go of pain and forgiving the responsible party involves both examining the wound and summoning the desire to move past anguish. Beyond even that, there is the seductive tinge of self-righteousness that comes with carrying a grudge (You hurt me. You should beg for my grace.) Rather than forgiving those who unjustly convicted him as Jesus did just before he died on a cross, the injured party would rather cry out to God, ““Forgive them not, Father, for they knew what they did!”

To live out our faith and confront our own suffering, we have to look in the mirror and ask hard questions…

Do we actually want to forgive? If not, why?

These questions form the root of the problem. As with all matters of the self, the ability to admit an issue comes first. Does a victim of bullying even want to forgive the bully? The injured party will likely feel this is unnecessary work since s/he isn’t at fault. Shouldn’t the bully apologize? The natural answer would be yes, but what if the apology never happens? The victim of the slight has his/her own decision to make. Even though time can heal a wound, the scar remains.

Maintaining a grudge requires a certain energy and a desire to indulge the pain. And the urge to engage in long-lasting self-pity may appear surprisingly attractive. That same self-pity can lock us into our current state, denying us the chance to grow spiritually and emotionally. Beyond that, bearing a grudge prevents us from experiencing greater strength and peace.

What does it say about us if we truly can move past this pain? And if we choose not to?

Forgiving does not mean forgetting. A trauma did occur, and that memory will not vanish. Yet we have control over our reaction to pain. Choosing to move past anguish draws upon a strength we often don’t know we have. In making that choice, we frequently surprise ourselves by developing a reservoir of resilience. When we forgive once, we’re more likely to summon the spiritual strength to forgive again.

What do we gain from forgiveness?

In a word, closure. Again, this does not mean erasing the memory. Rather, this is an opportunity to exercise one’s freedom and spiritual maturity and discover a lasting peace. Without releasing the pain, we can become its perpetual victim and rob ourselves of growth. Forgiveness also declares that the grace and mercy that Jesus showed on the cross is alive in us. An added benefit of forgiveness is gaining the ability to help others experience the same outcome.

Do”Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written. “It is mine to avenge, I will repay says the Lord.                       (Romans 12:17-19)

 

Grace and Peace to You My Friends

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Act of Kindness

Colossians 3.jpgTherefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive them as the Lord forgave you.                                           Colossians 3:12-13

I have preach more than once on these words from the book of Colossians that the Apostle Paul wrote while he was in prison in Rome. I had share with everyone who was in attendance, if each and everyone of us can simply do an act of kindness to someone else without expecting any form of payment or anything in return would you do it. Things like the next time you are in line say at a dunkin donuts, buy the person behind you a cup of coffee, especially at the drive thru, they don’t have the chance to say thank you (which is okay).  How about at the car wash leave enough money in the machine to allow the next person to wash there car. When you are in the food market and you see a young mother or father with a fussing child go and offer to help them in someway, and just smile in return when you are going your way. Once on my way to another church to serve there I stop for gas, then went inside to grab a cup of tea ( I enjoy tea), I started talking with a woman who works two full time jobs to keep up being a single mom, as she was in line behind me to pay, when I went up to pay for my tea, I mention to the cashier by the way how much does the woman behind me owe for her items, he told me, I said okay and I paid it for her, I never look back to say a word I just went back to my car Praising God for allowing me to show someone a act of kindness. More than a week ago as I was crossing a bridge to go into another state from the state I was in, you needed to pay a toll to cross over the bridge and so as I get up to the woman and tried to pay for myself she inform me no need for the car in front of you has paid your bill, and so I decided to do the same for the car in behind me. That little act of kindness set off a chain reaction that day, and while I was driving to where I needed to be the person in which I paid for pass me by and everyone said Thank You. Someone else has also paid the price for all of us because we are sinners, and our sin has separated us from God, and that person is Jesus Christ whose kindness and love paid the price for us all. Do one act of kindness to a complete stranger today, you will see the world in a whole new light, and well as saying thank you to Jesus our Lord and Savior who paid the price for all of our sins on the cross.

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Grace and Peace to You My Friends