Why Should I Forgive

Colossians 3 F.jpgTherefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.                                                              (Colossians 3:12-13)

This has been a difficult thing for all humans to do is to forgive someone after being hurt, and more important to forgive ourselves for any and all of our short comings, and when we did something wrong. As I was reading a post from rethink church they share the following words, of why we should forgive. By forgiving someone we are choosing to let go of our pain in which we do carry and sometimes we carry that pain a long time. It is never easy to forgive anyone however when we ask Christ to help us to forgive the person that hurt us it becomes a lot easy to do. And if Jesus can forgive our sins shouldn’t we do the same?

Before the act of forgiveness can begin, there is the inward struggle of addressing the topic. Because letting go of pain and forgiving the responsible party involves both examining the wound and summoning the desire to move past anguish. Beyond even that, there is the seductive tinge of self-righteousness that comes with carrying a grudge (You hurt me. You should beg for my grace.) Rather than forgiving those who unjustly convicted him as Jesus did just before he died on a cross, the injured party would rather cry out to God, ““Forgive them not, Father, for they knew what they did!”

To live out our faith and confront our own suffering, we have to look in the mirror and ask hard questions…

Do we actually want to forgive? If not, why?

These questions form the root of the problem. As with all matters of the self, the ability to admit an issue comes first. Does a victim of bullying even want to forgive the bully? The injured party will likely feel this is unnecessary work since s/he isn’t at fault. Shouldn’t the bully apologize? The natural answer would be yes, but what if the apology never happens? The victim of the slight has his/her own decision to make. Even though time can heal a wound, the scar remains.

Maintaining a grudge requires a certain energy and a desire to indulge the pain. And the urge to engage in long-lasting self-pity may appear surprisingly attractive. That same self-pity can lock us into our current state, denying us the chance to grow spiritually and emotionally. Beyond that, bearing a grudge prevents us from experiencing greater strength and peace.

What does it say about us if we truly can move past this pain? And if we choose not to?

Forgiving does not mean forgetting. A trauma did occur, and that memory will not vanish. Yet we have control over our reaction to pain. Choosing to move past anguish draws upon a strength we often don’t know we have. In making that choice, we frequently surprise ourselves by developing a reservoir of resilience. When we forgive once, we’re more likely to summon the spiritual strength to forgive again.

What do we gain from forgiveness?

In a word, closure. Again, this does not mean erasing the memory. Rather, this is an opportunity to exercise one’s freedom and spiritual maturity and discover a lasting peace. Without releasing the pain, we can become its perpetual victim and rob ourselves of growth. Forgiveness also declares that the grace and mercy that Jesus showed on the cross is alive in us. An added benefit of forgiveness is gaining the ability to help others experience the same outcome.

Do”Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written. “It is mine to avenge, I will repay says the Lord.                       (Romans 12:17-19)

 

Grace and Peace to You My Friends

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Act of Kindness

Colossians 3.jpgTherefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive them as the Lord forgave you.                                           Colossians 3:12-13

I have preach more than once on these words from the book of Colossians that the Apostle Paul wrote while he was in prison in Rome. I had share with everyone who was in attendance, if each and everyone of us can simply do an act of kindness to someone else without expecting any form of payment or anything in return would you do it. Things like the next time you are in line say at a dunkin donuts, buy the person behind you a cup of coffee, especially at the drive thru, they don’t have the chance to say thank you (which is okay).  How about at the car wash leave enough money in the machine to allow the next person to wash there car. When you are in the food market and you see a young mother or father with a fussing child go and offer to help them in someway, and just smile in return when you are going your way. Once on my way to another church to serve there I stop for gas, then went inside to grab a cup of tea ( I enjoy tea), I started talking with a woman who works two full time jobs to keep up being a single mom, as she was in line behind me to pay, when I went up to pay for my tea, I mention to the cashier by the way how much does the woman behind me owe for her items, he told me, I said okay and I paid it for her, I never look back to say a word I just went back to my car Praising God for allowing me to show someone a act of kindness. More than a week ago as I was crossing a bridge to go into another state from the state I was in, you needed to pay a toll to cross over the bridge and so as I get up to the woman and tried to pay for myself she inform me no need for the car in front of you has paid your bill, and so I decided to do the same for the car in behind me. That little act of kindness set off a chain reaction that day, and while I was driving to where I needed to be the person in which I paid for pass me by and everyone said Thank You. Someone else has also paid the price for all of us because we are sinners, and our sin has separated us from God, and that person is Jesus Christ whose kindness and love paid the price for us all. Do one act of kindness to a complete stranger today, you will see the world in a whole new light, and well as saying thank you to Jesus our Lord and Savior who paid the price for all of our sins on the cross.

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Grace and Peace to You My Friends

Meditation in the Morning

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I Am                

There’s no space that His love can’t reach

There’s no place that we can’t find peace

There’s no end to Amazing Grace

Take me in with your arms spread wide

Take me in like an orphan child

Never let go, never leave my side

I am

Holding on to You

I am

Holding on to You

In the middle of the storm

I am holding on

I am!

Love like this, oh my God to find!

I am overwhelmed what a joy divine!

Love like this sets our hearts on fire!

I am

Holding on to You

I am

Holding on to You

In the middle of the storm

I am holding on

I am!

I am

Holding on to You

I am

Holding on to You

In the middle of the storm

I am holding on

I am!

This is my resurrection song

This is my Hallelujah come

This is why to You I run

This is my resurrection song

This is my Hallelujah come

This is why to You I run

There’s no space that His love can’t reach

There’s no place that we can’t find peace

There’s no end to Amazing Grace

I am

Holding on to You

I am

Holding on to You

In the middle of the storm

I am holding on

I am

Holding on to You

I am

Holding on to You

In the middle of the storm

I am holding on

I am

Holding on to You

I am

Holding on to You

In the middle of the storm

I am holding on

I am!

I am

In the middle of the storm

I am holding on

I am!

The storms in our lives can be very, and I mean very painful, and today early this morning thru my own tears of disappointment in human beings, these words I have sung many times before flood my mind. As I ask the why questions we all seem to ask sometime during our own life, why my Lord. Have I disappoint people in what I have done or perhaps of what I have said. The words in scriptures that have come to me more than once are as follows.

Then Peter came to Jesus and ask Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times? Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times but seventy-seven times. (Matthew 18:21-22) If we feel the need to ask forgiveness from God why then is it so difficult for humans to forgive one another. Why do we feel that it is okay to judge someone knowing we are totally far from perfect and we all have fallen short in so many ways. I praise God that he is a forgiving God especially with all of my faults and the many sins I have committed in the past or will in the future. I only wish people in general in all walk of life, would find it in their own heart to forgive each other.

God’s Love Letters

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 A few months ago, I attended a class on preaching. The teacher of this class asks all of the students, tell me in a few short words what does the gospel mean to you. Well I answered pretty quickly and said the Gospel is God’s Love Letters to us. It is not just any old book that is filled with stories, but it is a book of God’s instructions of how we should live our lives day by day. It is a book that contains many books inside of it. Their are 39 books in the Old Testament and 27 books in the New Testament, which makes a total of 66 books in all. I read the bible at least once a day, and  sometimes more than once a day, just reading along with a devotion, and more important for me to grow a deeper understanding of who God is and why his love for me a sinner is unconditional. When life seems so overwhelming to me, I turn to this book for answers for my own life. When I am tired, when I feel I am not smart enough like others, when I can’t forgive myself for something I have done, I turn to find the answers. When I asked myself in the past can anyone love me just because who I am with no strings attached, when I feel lonely even in a crowd of people, does anyone care. There have been times in my life when I feel I can’t or don’t care to go forward and somewhere in the depth of my soul, my soul cries out Abba Father. Lord are you there, do you even care for me, I know you are so busy with more important things than me. Sometimes the nights seem so long, so very long I wonder when will the morning come, because my soul longs to rest. It is during these times that different scriptures have come to my mind and my heart and I would like to share them with you.

You Say:                                              God says:                                                 Bible Verse:

“It’s impossible”                     “All things are possible”                        Luke 18:27                              “I’m too tired”                         “I will give you rest”                                 Matthew 11:28-30              “Nobody loves me”                 ” I love you”                                                John 3:16                                 “I can’t go on”                          “My grace is sufficient”                        2 Corinthians 12:9                 “I can’t figure it out”              “I will direct your steps”                      Proverbs 3:5-6                        “I can’t do it”                             “You can do all things”                        Philippians 4:13                   “I’m not able”                           ” | am able”                                              2 Corinthians 9:8                “It’s not worth it”                     “It will be worth it”                               Romans 8:28                         “I can’t forgive myself”          “I forgive you”                                         Romans 8:1                            “I’m afraid”                                “I have not given you fear”                 2 Timothy 1:7                          “I’m always worried”              “Cast all your cares on Me”                 1 Peter 5:7                               “I’m not smart enough”         “I will give you wisdom”                     1 Corinthians 1:30                 “I feel alone”                               “I will never leave you”                        Hebrews 13:5                       “I can’t manage”                        “I will supply all your needs”            Philippians 4:19

 

These scriptures has been my inspiration over the many years of my journey with Christ , and as they have also given me comfort and peace, they will due the same thing for you. Once we as Christians accept who Jesus was and is and forever will be, which is the Messiah, the Great I Am, King of Kings, and Lord of Lords,  these words will give you the comfort and peace and encouragement on a daily basis.
Grace and Peace to you my friend