12 Ways to Reconnect With Your Erring Spouse (Guess Blogger)

Good Morning, I would like to introduce to you Sarah:

My name is Sarah Ishaku. I set up this blog purposely to provide helpful advice and resources for women who are desiring to build strong marriage relationships. After being married for close to 3 decades, I can testify that a strong marriage relationship not just happen; it takes a woman who draws her strength from Christ to build it.

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Are you almost giving up on your spouse? Do you wish you would have known his person before answering yes I do? Maybe you have already labelled your marriage as a failure because you think your spouse can never change. Perhaps you have made all effort to make him behave as you expect but your effort is not making any impact on him. I understand how unresponsive emotions can be in such kind of a relationship. It can be frustrating trying to connect with someone whose attitude irritates you.
We all cherish a relationship where a partner does what you want, but in most cases, we do not get it our own way. What do we do when the situation is not as we expected; should we refrain from the relationship? I don’t think so, there must be a way out, and that is what I want to share with you in this post.
So, this is the way out:
A. Facts You need to know about a man.

photo-nic-co-uk-nic-224385-unsplash-700x4671. Know that a man hates to be confronted by his wife.
Your spouse may be doing the wrong thing but he wouldn’t like you to challenge him. He already knows and doesn’t want you to confirm it for him. He would try to be on the defensive side so that you do not intimidate him.
2. Know that too much of complaining makes a man hardened.

When you complain a lot about his attitude, he may want to indulge in it more, to prove to you that he cannot be intimidated by your actions. So he would want to prove that he is a man.
3 Know that men tend to ignore the problem in a marriage.
A man would prefer to be somewhere to find comfort than face the problem in his marriage. He would rather dodge the problem than stand and face it. Check it, how many men go for marriage counselling on their own without their wives pushing them?
A man will always show that he is in charge of the affairs of the family.
No matter your effort to make things work for the family, a man would not want you to take the glory. He wants you to accredit it to him. Failure to do that amounts to a conflict of interest which may push him farther away from you.

A man tends to focus more on work, money, and sports.
A man cherishes his work, money and sports. Usually these three things may take his attention off from you at a point in time. If you try to force yourself on him ahead of those three things it may result in disagreement, and he may accuse you of being dominant.
B. Ways you can Make Positive Change on Your Spouse.

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Accept the fact that every human being has limitation.
For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.Rom.3:23 If we claim we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not us.1 John1:8 When you understand that we all have limitations, you would not easily judge your spouse’s failures. You would appreciate the fact that you are likely to make mistakes also. We are only declared righteous by what Christ did for us; it is not our own effort. Instead of judging your spouse, pray for him.
Instead of dwelling on his negative side, dwell more on his positive side.
No matter how bad a person is, he must have his good side. So, appreciate his good qualities and ask God for wisdom to help him overcome the negative side.
Don’t just complain about everything.

Instead of complaining about everything out of annoyance, let him know clearly the attitude in him that irritates you. While you do that, you must do it with respect. Approach him in the right way and at the right time. For example, if your husband drinks, don’t wait until he is drunk before you complain about it. Instead, talk to him when he is calm, and in a good mood, and respectfully tell him about the effects of his attitude on your married relationship.
4. Have confidence in your spouse
Let your husband know you believe in him. Don’t relegate him to a low status simply because he is failing in some of his responsibilities. No matter the shortcoming of a man, he wants his wife to believe in his capabilities.
5. Accept him.
Accept your spouse for who he is without conditions. If you fail to accept him, he would always go to where he feels relevant. We all want to be accepted by the people around us, every person wants to be relevant.
6. Allow Christ to have control over your life.
Learn to depend on Jesus in everything you do, and stop depending on your emotions. Jesus is the prince of peace; if you remain in him, you would enjoy his peace that surpasses the one you expect from your husband.
7. Take prayer seriously.
Be a woman of prayer; never relent in your prayers. Take time to pray for yourself, and your spouse. By this, God will make His grace available to you, and you will be surprised how great an impact you would make in the life of your spouse. The changes may not be automatic, but gradually they will manifest.
Above all, no matter how you feel, always remember that God loves you, and He means well for you. Imagine God giving His only begotten Son to die in your place so that in him you might have a life. If God can do that for you, what else would He deny you? Surely, He will grant you peace and a loving relationship with your spouse.
Remain blessed.

 

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Jesus Has Risen

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On the first day of the week, very early in the morning, the women took the spices they had prepared and went to the tomb. They found the stone rolled away from the tomb, but when they entered, they did not found the body of the Lord Jesus. While they were wondering about this, suddenly two men in clothes that gleamed like lightning stood beside the,. In their fright the women bowed down with their faces to the ground, but the men said to them,” Why do you look for the living among the dead? He is not here; for her has risen! Remember how he told you, while still with you in Galilee: ” The Son of Man must be delivered over to the hands of sinners, be crucified and on the third day raise again.”                  Luke 24:1-7

Light comes after the night has been long and dark. Jesus has concord death. The women was so surprise just ad his disciples were on that very day. Their sorrow has turn to joy just as Jesus has told them as he walk among them.

Dear Lord:

Our hearts have leap with J-O-Y as we remember that death could never hold you, Praise your Name. You Lord had taken our place on the Cross at Calvary our own punishment you took upon yourself because you love all of your children so deeply. Give us the words to speak to others that “You Live, and that you died for all mankind so that we can continue to make more disciples for your kingdom.

Amen

Grace and Peace to all of you my friends, on this Easter Day

Peter Disown Jesus

Peter denying Jesus.pngAfter arresting Jesus they led him away to the house of the high priest. And when some there had kindled a fire in the middle of the courtyard and had sat down together, Peter sat down with them. A servant girl saw him seated there in the fire-light. She looked closely at him and said, “This man was with him.” But he denied it. “Woman I don’t know him, he said.” A little later someone else saw him and said, “You also are one of them.” “Moan I am not!” Peter replied. About an hour later another asserted, “Certainly this fellow was with him, for he is a Galilean.” Peter replied, “Man, I don’t know what you’re talking about!” Just as he was speaking, the rooster crowed. The Lord turned and looked straight at Peter. Then Peter remember the word the Lord had spoken to him. “Before the rooster crows today, you will disown me three times.” And he went outside and wept bitterly.

Peter is a lot like me and he is a lot like you. How many times do we as Christians have the opportunity to share our own faith and we choose not to. Even when someone ask you, hey I saw you going to church last week, you make some kind of an excuse of why you were there. Every time that we choose not to speak up as a Christian or even show love to another human being, aren’t we choosing to deny Jesus. Many times people will say I don’t know what to say, believe me when I tell you when the opportunity comes your way and it will, the Spirit will give you all what you need to say to someone else, all we need to be is just believe and have the faith. Have you ever invited your neighbor, friend or a co-worker to church with you, if your answer is no, my question to you is what are you waiting for. We all are able to plant in the heart of another seeds of God’s love don’t worry the rest is in God’s hands, maybe they will believe what you are saying or maybe they won’t but don’t give up. Continue to be in prayer for another and watch God at work overtime, His will be done.

 

Grace and Peace to you my friends