Be Uniquely You (Guess Blogger)

Let us all welcome Sharon today to Quiet Moments With God Blog.

Hey you!!!!  Thanks so much for coming to join me!  I am so honored to have you here!

I wanted to take this time to introduce myself and tell you what this blog is all about.

My name is Sharon Fletcher.  I am the wife to an amazing husband, mommy to 3 uniquely gifted, precious children, and a part-time pharmacist.  I am a lover of coffee, new experiences, being a tourist in my own town, and all things pretty!

Most of all, and I am lover of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.  My heart is sold out to Him.

This blog was birthed from my trials and triumphs, tribulations and victories. It is my prayer that as I share my journey, others with be inspired and refreshed.  My purpose is to point others to Christ.

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Hey Hey Hey!!!  Rise and Shine!!!!  Rise to the occasion!  Shine on to greatness!!  God gave You a light that is unique to YOU and only YOU, and there is someone out there that needs you to let that light shine!

And that is what this blog post is about today.

I am a transparent person, a bit of an open book.  This is almost to a fault.  So I share a lot of my struggles, past and present, in hopes that the lessons learned from them will help someone else.  So, with that being said..

Growing up and into adulthood, I struggled with identity.  I wanted to be like my friends, my cousins, my siblings.  I wanted privileges that others had that I, at the time, was not afforded.  I wanted to go where they went and do what they did.  I had the mindset that what I had was not good enough.

I tried hard to be like my friends, especially the ones that everyone liked.  The beautiful and popular ones.  This was because I didn’t realize the precious jewel that I had within MYSELF, the jewel that He placed in me.  I never thought I was good enough. I never thought people would like who I was, but I desperately needed their validation.

Then Christ took me on a journey.

As I began to study Psalm 139, I learned how precious I was to God.  How He took the time to knit me in my mother’s womb.  That in itself makes me special.  Not more special than anyone else…just special.

I learned that He knew all of my words before they were formed on my tongue.  I learned that there is no where that I can go that He will not be.

I learned that my frame was not hidden from him.  My body. He shaped it.  My eyes, the way I talk, my teeth, the way I walk, my hair… He created it all.

I learned that His thoughts toward me are AMAZING, and I couldn’t number them if I tried.

I learned that His works are wonderful… and that includes me.

Through studying this Psalm, I learned that God took his time and carefully fashioned me.  He created me to be exactly how He wanted me to be.  And I am fine just the way that I am.

He did not create clones of Himself or others.  Although we are made in His image, He created unique beings that, together, form one great body.

I don’t have to parent like my friends that I admire.  God put something in ME that is unique to what my children need.

I don’t have to speak or act like my friends that I admire in hopes that others will like me.  He gave me my own special sauce and flavor that only I can add to the mix.  Validation from others is no longer needed or relevant.

I don’t have to look like the next woman, look how she looks in a bathing suit, or wear my hair the way she does to make me beautiful.  I am Fearfully and Wonderfully Made.  I have a certain finesse, style, and class that He gave only to me.  That makes me beautiful.  And I love it.

He gave each of us specific strengths, gifts, and talents that are unique to share with the others.

He put a special Light in you, that will ultimately draw others to HIM.

So I challenge you today, my dear sister!  Embrace your uniqueness!  Allow God to cultivate it!

Cherish yourself as much as He cherishes you!

Embrace what He has put in you!  You strengths, weaknesses, talents, flaws, charisma, and quirkiness.  Embrace it all!  It all makes you beautiful.

Be your own kind of Beautiful!  Own the finesse, style, and class that He gave YOU!

And the things about you that you know are not of God, submit it to Him to place on the Potter’s Wheel.  He makes all things new. You don’t have to try to do that in your own strength.

Rise and SHINE!!!  You are the light of the world.  A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden!  God did not give you that light to be put under a bushel, but on a candlestick to give light to others! (Matthew 5:14-16).

Thanks Sharon, you can find her site at www. refreshingmomentswithsharon.com

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12 Ways to Reconnect With Your Erring Spouse (Guess Blogger)

Good Morning, I would like to introduce to you Sarah:

My name is Sarah Ishaku. I set up this blog purposely to provide helpful advice and resources for women who are desiring to build strong marriage relationships. After being married for close to 3 decades, I can testify that a strong marriage relationship not just happen; it takes a woman who draws her strength from Christ to build it.

https://www.thewomanworth.com/12-ways-to-reconnect-with-your-erring-spouse/

Are you almost giving up on your spouse? Do you wish you would have known his person before answering yes I do? Maybe you have already labelled your marriage as a failure because you think your spouse can never change. Perhaps you have made all effort to make him behave as you expect but your effort is not making any impact on him. I understand how unresponsive emotions can be in such kind of a relationship. It can be frustrating trying to connect with someone whose attitude irritates you.
We all cherish a relationship where a partner does what you want, but in most cases, we do not get it our own way. What do we do when the situation is not as we expected; should we refrain from the relationship? I don’t think so, there must be a way out, and that is what I want to share with you in this post.
So, this is the way out:
A. Facts You need to know about a man.

photo-nic-co-uk-nic-224385-unsplash-700x4671. Know that a man hates to be confronted by his wife.
Your spouse may be doing the wrong thing but he wouldn’t like you to challenge him. He already knows and doesn’t want you to confirm it for him. He would try to be on the defensive side so that you do not intimidate him.
2. Know that too much of complaining makes a man hardened.

When you complain a lot about his attitude, he may want to indulge in it more, to prove to you that he cannot be intimidated by your actions. So he would want to prove that he is a man.
3 Know that men tend to ignore the problem in a marriage.
A man would prefer to be somewhere to find comfort than face the problem in his marriage. He would rather dodge the problem than stand and face it. Check it, how many men go for marriage counselling on their own without their wives pushing them?
A man will always show that he is in charge of the affairs of the family.
No matter your effort to make things work for the family, a man would not want you to take the glory. He wants you to accredit it to him. Failure to do that amounts to a conflict of interest which may push him farther away from you.

A man tends to focus more on work, money, and sports.
A man cherishes his work, money and sports. Usually these three things may take his attention off from you at a point in time. If you try to force yourself on him ahead of those three things it may result in disagreement, and he may accuse you of being dominant.
B. Ways you can Make Positive Change on Your Spouse.

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Accept the fact that every human being has limitation.
For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.Rom.3:23 If we claim we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not us.1 John1:8 When you understand that we all have limitations, you would not easily judge your spouse’s failures. You would appreciate the fact that you are likely to make mistakes also. We are only declared righteous by what Christ did for us; it is not our own effort. Instead of judging your spouse, pray for him.
Instead of dwelling on his negative side, dwell more on his positive side.
No matter how bad a person is, he must have his good side. So, appreciate his good qualities and ask God for wisdom to help him overcome the negative side.
Don’t just complain about everything.

Instead of complaining about everything out of annoyance, let him know clearly the attitude in him that irritates you. While you do that, you must do it with respect. Approach him in the right way and at the right time. For example, if your husband drinks, don’t wait until he is drunk before you complain about it. Instead, talk to him when he is calm, and in a good mood, and respectfully tell him about the effects of his attitude on your married relationship.
4. Have confidence in your spouse
Let your husband know you believe in him. Don’t relegate him to a low status simply because he is failing in some of his responsibilities. No matter the shortcoming of a man, he wants his wife to believe in his capabilities.
5. Accept him.
Accept your spouse for who he is without conditions. If you fail to accept him, he would always go to where he feels relevant. We all want to be accepted by the people around us, every person wants to be relevant.
6. Allow Christ to have control over your life.
Learn to depend on Jesus in everything you do, and stop depending on your emotions. Jesus is the prince of peace; if you remain in him, you would enjoy his peace that surpasses the one you expect from your husband.
7. Take prayer seriously.
Be a woman of prayer; never relent in your prayers. Take time to pray for yourself, and your spouse. By this, God will make His grace available to you, and you will be surprised how great an impact you would make in the life of your spouse. The changes may not be automatic, but gradually they will manifest.
Above all, no matter how you feel, always remember that God loves you, and He means well for you. Imagine God giving His only begotten Son to die in your place so that in him you might have a life. If God can do that for you, what else would He deny you? Surely, He will grant you peace and a loving relationship with your spouse.
Remain blessed.