12 Ways to Reconnect With Your Erring Spouse (Guess Blogger)

Good Morning, I would like to introduce to you Sarah:

My name is Sarah Ishaku. I set up this blog purposely to provide helpful advice and resources for women who are desiring to build strong marriage relationships. After being married for close to 3 decades, I can testify that a strong marriage relationship not just happen; it takes a woman who draws her strength from Christ to build it.

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Are you almost giving up on your spouse? Do you wish you would have known his person before answering yes I do? Maybe you have already labelled your marriage as a failure because you think your spouse can never change. Perhaps you have made all effort to make him behave as you expect but your effort is not making any impact on him. I understand how unresponsive emotions can be in such kind of a relationship. It can be frustrating trying to connect with someone whose attitude irritates you.
We all cherish a relationship where a partner does what you want, but in most cases, we do not get it our own way. What do we do when the situation is not as we expected; should we refrain from the relationship? I don’t think so, there must be a way out, and that is what I want to share with you in this post.
So, this is the way out:
A. Facts You need to know about a man.

photo-nic-co-uk-nic-224385-unsplash-700x4671. Know that a man hates to be confronted by his wife.
Your spouse may be doing the wrong thing but he wouldn’t like you to challenge him. He already knows and doesn’t want you to confirm it for him. He would try to be on the defensive side so that you do not intimidate him.
2. Know that too much of complaining makes a man hardened.

When you complain a lot about his attitude, he may want to indulge in it more, to prove to you that he cannot be intimidated by your actions. So he would want to prove that he is a man.
3 Know that men tend to ignore the problem in a marriage.
A man would prefer to be somewhere to find comfort than face the problem in his marriage. He would rather dodge the problem than stand and face it. Check it, how many men go for marriage counselling on their own without their wives pushing them?
A man will always show that he is in charge of the affairs of the family.
No matter your effort to make things work for the family, a man would not want you to take the glory. He wants you to accredit it to him. Failure to do that amounts to a conflict of interest which may push him farther away from you.

A man tends to focus more on work, money, and sports.
A man cherishes his work, money and sports. Usually these three things may take his attention off from you at a point in time. If you try to force yourself on him ahead of those three things it may result in disagreement, and he may accuse you of being dominant.
B. Ways you can Make Positive Change on Your Spouse.

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Accept the fact that every human being has limitation.
For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.Rom.3:23 If we claim we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not us.1 John1:8 When you understand that we all have limitations, you would not easily judge your spouse’s failures. You would appreciate the fact that you are likely to make mistakes also. We are only declared righteous by what Christ did for us; it is not our own effort. Instead of judging your spouse, pray for him.
Instead of dwelling on his negative side, dwell more on his positive side.
No matter how bad a person is, he must have his good side. So, appreciate his good qualities and ask God for wisdom to help him overcome the negative side.
Don’t just complain about everything.

Instead of complaining about everything out of annoyance, let him know clearly the attitude in him that irritates you. While you do that, you must do it with respect. Approach him in the right way and at the right time. For example, if your husband drinks, don’t wait until he is drunk before you complain about it. Instead, talk to him when he is calm, and in a good mood, and respectfully tell him about the effects of his attitude on your married relationship.
4. Have confidence in your spouse
Let your husband know you believe in him. Don’t relegate him to a low status simply because he is failing in some of his responsibilities. No matter the shortcoming of a man, he wants his wife to believe in his capabilities.
5. Accept him.
Accept your spouse for who he is without conditions. If you fail to accept him, he would always go to where he feels relevant. We all want to be accepted by the people around us, every person wants to be relevant.
6. Allow Christ to have control over your life.
Learn to depend on Jesus in everything you do, and stop depending on your emotions. Jesus is the prince of peace; if you remain in him, you would enjoy his peace that surpasses the one you expect from your husband.
7. Take prayer seriously.
Be a woman of prayer; never relent in your prayers. Take time to pray for yourself, and your spouse. By this, God will make His grace available to you, and you will be surprised how great an impact you would make in the life of your spouse. The changes may not be automatic, but gradually they will manifest.
Above all, no matter how you feel, always remember that God loves you, and He means well for you. Imagine God giving His only begotten Son to die in your place so that in him you might have a life. If God can do that for you, what else would He deny you? Surely, He will grant you peace and a loving relationship with your spouse.
Remain blessed.

 

God Cares For You!

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Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may life you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.          1 Peter 5:6-7

Remember God when you lie in bed, think of him through the watches of the night. When you are wakeful during the night, thoughts can fly at you from all directions. Unless you take charge of them, you are likely to become anxious. Your best strategy is to think about the Lord during your night watches. Start communicating with him about whatever is on your mind. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. God is taking care of you my friend. This makes it possible for you to relax and rejoice in the shadow of his wings.

When you remember him during the night, think about who God really is, He is the “Great I Am,”, the Alpha and Omega. Ponder him perfections: His love, joy and peace. Rejoice in his majesty, wisdom, grace and mercy. Find comfort in his names: Shepherd, Savior, Immanuel, Prince of Peace. Be awed by his power and glory, for he is the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. Thus you worship him and enjoy His presence. These thoughts of him will clear your mind, helping you see things from his perspective and refresh your entire being.

Grace and Peace to You My Friends

The Name For God “Elohim”

By wisdom the Lord laid the earth foundations, by understanding he set the heaven in place. Proverbs 3-19

By wisdom the Lord laid the earth’s foundation, by understanding he set the heavens in place: by his knowledge the watery depths were divided. and the clouds let drop the dew.   (Proverbs 3:19-20)

Lift up your eyes and look to the heavens: Who created all these? He who brings out the starry host one by one and calls forth each of them by name. Because of his great power and mighty strength not one of them is missing?                         (Isaiah 40:26)

Their are many names that people use to call God the one today that I will share with you is “Elohim” the Hebrew name for God. Which means the God who has created the heavens and the earth and more important, He has created you. I recently was reading the book by author Wendy Blight and is called “I known His Name” The scriptures declares that our God is a personal God and a loving and forgiving father. He demands justice, yet extends grace. He is kind and compassionate and allows for free will, but mandates that this free will has consequences when wrongly exercised. However, because of His grace, in the midst of those consequences, God extends mercy and promise to never leave or forsake us. Can you image if everyone in our world would come to know God on a personal level in their own life they would begin to see changes from the inside-out that only God can ever do in any of us. It is not just going to church on a Sunday morning that makes any of us to know God in a personal way, it is searching the scriptures and our own prayer life that we come to know the “Great I Am”

We begin this journey to begin to know who God is, lets read Genesis 1:1-2 In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth, Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters. Try and picture in your mind a big nothing and from that big nothing God began to created the world as we know it today. So during many of my writings I will share with you the different names of God. God is an infinite being without beginning and without an end. (Revelation 21:6, 22:13)  But Genesis 1:1 God initiated a work that is measured by time as we understand it.  Our God has done great and unsearchable things beyond our comprehension. He brought into existence every natural wonder the eye can see, every twinkling star, every delicate snowflake, every drop of rain, every beautiful  cloud, every crisp cool day, everything in its beauty God has created for mankind t enjoy.

 

Grace and Peace to You My Friends

Wisdom and Understanding

Colossians 2.jpg Paul who was a follower of Jesus Christ was in Roman prison when he wrote to the church in Colossae. False teachers were coaching the Colossians to worship angles and follow special rules and ceremonies. Paul corrected this thinking through his letter, stressing that faith in Christ is sufficient for salvation and that nothing needs to be added to Christ’s sacrifice on the cross. All the treasures of wisdom and knowledge are hidden in Jesus. So he is relevant to absolutely everything! The world is such a fragmented place, with many voices calling out to all of us-claiming to have the answers, When we are learning or experiencing new things, it is vital to stay in communication with God. He can help us understand things from His perspective, drawing on His wisdom. He wants all of us to examine everything in the Light of biblical truth. If you and I keep Jesus central to our thoughts, we can discern order and design in a chaotic world. There will continue to be things any of us can comprehend, because we live in a broken world. Acknowledging the limits of our understanding opens the way to profound worship. This will encourage our hearts, as well as the hearts of our fellow worshippers, to worship Jesus and Jesus only. To worship Jesus our hearts must be united in love, woven into a beautiful love-tapestry. As we worship, this united, we can enjoy His majestic presence together in ways that transcend our individual experience. This enables us to venture further and further into Jesus vast hidden treasures of wisdom and knowledge.

 

Grace and Peace to You My Friends

The Season of Lent

Lent.pngWe are approaching the season of Lent this coming week. Lent begins on Ash Wednesday and last for forty days (excepts Sundays) and it last until sundown the day before Easter Sunday.  During lent we as Christians enter into a season of preparation, self-reflection and repentance when we seek to literally “turn around” and realign our lives and focus toward God. It is a time to give up things as well as take on new life-giving practices, helping us rid of ourselves of distractions and our own selfish desires. By doing so, we seek to live and love as more faithful disciples of Jesus Christ. As you made realize that Easter Sunday is always a different date each year, that is because Easter Sunday is the first Sunday after the full moon in springtime that we celebrate the Resurrection of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.  It doesn’t really matter what any of us give up during the Lenten season because nothing can compare with what Jesus did by sacrificing his life for all mankind.

Joel 2:12-13                                                                                                                                                     Even now ‘declares the Lord return to me with all your heart, with fasting and weeping and mourning. Rend your heart and not your garments. Return to the Lord your God, for he is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love, and he relents from sending calamity.                         (NIV)

Let us all journey together during this coming season, as we seek forgiveness from God as well as wisdom and understanding of his word (the Bible)

Grace and Peace to you my friends.